Sometimes we cannot help ourselves. We criticize, argue and often offend when we feel we are: A) Right and B) Not being Heard! Even when we are on “high alert”, we start a five-round brawl over our sensation of needing to be right. Where does this feeling come from and what are we suppose to do about it?

Let’s face it; sometimes things need to be said. For those that know me well, I am not quick to shy away from honest dialogue. As a classroom instructor, getting challenged from students is an ongoing part of my job. I actually encourage my students in active participation. But there comes a time when a battle starts because I sense the need to enforce my “rightness” over someone else’s “wrongness”.

We often express our rightness with people that aren’t really concerned about how right we think we are. As Christians, our energy and focus should be towards societal issues and challenges that welcome change, such as poverty, homelessness and illiteracy. We probably would not need to vote on propositions to start working on these challenges.

Pastor Mike Dixon once told me, “When the cost of being right cost love, then the cost of being right cost too much.” How many times have we exploded at a situation because we felt attacked or offended, by someone who only has our best interests in mind? How many casualties will it take before we see that the light at the end of the argument tunnel is truly an oncoming train?

Telling the truth is important. But everyone reading this article knows I am not talking about a truth-telling session. We are talking about the moment your Opponent sends the message to your Ego saying, “Hey, you do not need to put up with that!” Your Ego needs to be fed, which in turn feeds Satan.

Did you know that Satan has no light or life-source of his own? He feeds and lives off the light we provide him when our Ego runs the show. We could reduce his effectiveness to nearly zero if we just stop feeding him our light! Remember when Jesus said he comes to steal?

So how do we manage our urge to be right? Here is one tactic that has proven helpful to me. I look at everyone as a direct messenger from God with an important and significant message I need for my transformation. Missing this message would mean slowing down the transformation process and enabling the Opponent to feed himself off my energy. I often ask God, “Why is this in my movie?”

What if the person blowing up your phone or letting you have it in a parking lot was really an angel? The Scriptures tell us we have engaged angels and not even known it. Also, by crushing your Ego, restricting your desire to return fire, you become a proactive resource in your own life. When we stop the blame cycle and readily accept the challenges as “ours”, we shut down the reactive nature.

Here is a mediation I find useful:

I will let go of my desire to be right.

Happiness is more important to me than being right.

I will strive to be less reactive, to accept the beliefs and ways of others, and to look upon them with compassion and understanding.

As I foster unity in my own relationships and life, I let go of old, tired beliefs, frustrations that are weighing me down and blocking my soul from total fulfillment.

I will look at all sides of situations with understanding and an open heart and mind.

The Spiritual Universe is not hiding answers from us. We must come to our own rescue, in cooperation with God, to secure a life of blessings, fulfillment and to do our part in global transformation.

David

PS> As I mention from time to time, the meditation prayers are from Yehuda Berg’s book, The 72 Names of God.

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